So Small Child went back to school today - luckily it was a 'no uniform' day, so he was quite excited about that - but still ended up crying about his home learning book.
So I took him early and spoke to his teacher about why he hadn't been in school yesterday, and also about how he seems to have completely lost confidence in himself over the last year - as related to school lessons.
She understood completely, and didn't seem to have any problem with him not coming to Sports Day. She said he had no reason to be concerned about his schoolwork - that he is more than keeping up. Then we talked about the occupational therapy assessment (the school gets a copy). She also didn't think he was Asperger's, because he is extremely sociable and popular, but she thinks he is sensitive in lots and lots of ways, and that he finds even friendships overwhelming (like he gets overwhelmed with too much noise) and that he will then isolate himself.
The OT assessment has been useful because they are no longer trying to make him sit on a table with others - he'd moved to a single table at the beginning of the school year, and his teacher had been trying to get him to move back with the others on 'his table' (he's still counted as part of one of the tables). Now she's not as the OT said it is his way of cutting overstimulation so he can concentrate.
So I feel much better about him at school - I sometimes worry that people think he's a weirdo (because that's what Steve calls him), but it seems more like the other kids accept his eccentricities because he is a class comedian and a bit of an entertainer all round.
Dunno what will happen next Sports Day. 
